The course I am most attached to is not the one about reading other people. It is the one about reading yourself. I built a self-awareness course first because that is where all of this work actually begins. You can learn to decode a stranger's micro-expressions, but if you cannot see your own patterns — the way you shut down, the way you over-explain, the smile you wear when you are uncomfortable — the rest stays academic.
So before I tell you about decoding others, let me start where I always start: with the self.
Begin with self-awareness
This one is for people who are already working, already moving through their days, and have that quiet sense that there is something they need to understand better. Maybe a reaction that keeps repeating in meetings. Maybe a relationship that keeps hitting the same wall. The self-awareness course is for that person. Why look outward for answers first when so much becomes clear the moment you turn the lens on yourself?
The body language courses
For people who want to start reading non-verbals, I have kept two paths, depending on how deep you want to go.
The first is a crash course — about ninety minutes, recorded, so you can come back to it. It gives you the foundation: how to notice non-verbal signals and begin decoding them. It is the right size if you simply want a clear, practical introduction without committing a weekend to it.
The second is the full course — close to ten hours. This is for people who want to genuinely build the skill rather than sample it. We go into clusters of cues, baselines, context, and the slow, careful reading that real observation demands. I say this often because it matters: a single gesture tells you very little. Patterns tell you more. Ten hours is what it takes to learn to read patterns rather than jump to conclusions from one crossed arm.
Reading your date's body language
I made one course specifically for younger people who are dating, looking for a potential partner, or trying to understand someone they have just started seeing. It covers body language and non-verbal communication in that very particular context — the early, uncertain stage where words say one thing and the body often says another.
This is not about catching anyone out. It is about tuning your attention. Is this person comfortable around you or performing comfort? Are they leaning in, or politely staying put? Do their words and their face agree? Learning to notice these things saves a lot of confusion, and a fair amount of heartache.
An introduction to deception detection
There is one more piece I want to flag. I used to include a bonus session on deception detection inside the big body language course. I have now separated it out as a standalone introduction.
I will be honest about what this is and what it is not. It is an introduction. Deception detection is one of the most misunderstood areas in this whole field — people expect a lie to flash across someone's face like a neon sign. It does not work that way. What you learn instead is how to spot inconsistency, how stress can leak through the body, and crucially, how easy it is to read too much into too little. Done responsibly, it sharpens your observation. Done carelessly, it makes you suspicious of everyone. This session is meant to start you off in the right direction.
How to choose
If you are not sure where to begin, my honest advice is simple. Start with the self-awareness course if you want to understand yourself. Take the crash course if you want a quick, clear grounding in reading others. Go for the full course if you want the real skill. And pick the dating course or the deception introduction only once you have a base, because both make far more sense when you already know how to watch a person properly.